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Sex gets more complicated as you get older...

It's true. For most of us, sex gets more complicated as we get older. As teenagers, exploring sex was so exciting and new that there was little time to focus on the act itself.
As we mature, sex increasingly takes a back seat to other concerns in life.

Building intimacy improves sex

Animals will not have sex in dangerous situations. Most of us are wired the same way. When there is a breakdown in communication, sex is one of the first things to change.

Sex means different things to different people:

Sex means power

Sex means love

Sex means safety

Sex means I'm beautiful

Who chooses to be with us sexually defines us.

It's true! Critics argue that we are a sexually obsessed society, but it's far deeper than that. For other species, sex is the most important act- the only way of truly surviving. We often lose sight of the implications of sex. When problems arise around sex, it can be fundamentally disruptive and leads us to question our self-worth.

Sex Therapy isn't just about sex

Much like treating an addiction isn't just about stopping the drug, and losing weight isn't just about not eating, sex therapy is not about the act of sex. Good therapy will address how choices and behaviors in your personal life and relationships are influencing the quality of your sex life.

But my problem is so specific

Whether your problem is premature ejaculation, anorgasmia, decreased libido, or erectile dysfunction, therapy should address the underlying issue.

To Schedule a Consultation, Please Call 310-593-4827

What is intimacy?

Many people confuse intimacy with sexual intimacy. Improving intimacy will improve your sex life, but intimacy is not sex.

Intimacy is letting someone in emotionally. It means having a real dialogue where you explore one another. It's hard to do, and most of us don't do it very well.

When there are problems in our sex lives we focus on the specific symptom, and often misinterpret it.

Common Misinterpretations:

Premature Ejaculation =I don't care about your pleasure

Decreased Libido or Erectile Dysfunction = I'm not attracted to you, or I'm attracted to someone else

Anorgasmia = You don't know what you're doing!

Restoring intimacy takes some of the pressure off of sexual performance. Often, reducing anxiety around sexual dysfunction makes it easier to fix the symptom through simple exercises... but if the intimacy isn't there, the exercises won't work.

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